Finding closure...

Loosing a close one is like loosing a part of yourself, its quite an intense process and the internal churning one goes through can be quite daunting and in-expressible. However with the pace that we live life and with the super intervention of technology, we are taking longer than before to truly heal and truly move on.


Though I speak of closure wrt to demise of a close one, I mean to share about it as an issue in general. As i sat observing myself go through a sea of emotions at my granny's prayer ceremony, it felt very mixed. Some part of me had moved on in a year, so I was more at ease thinking of her, but when so many members of the family came together to pray, that feeling left me over-whelmed. As I allowed myself the freedom to think of her, without resisting I was surprised the way my mind totally let go and churned in emotions and as I continued being with them, there was this point where they transformed into pure love and it engulfed everyone around. I remember singing her favorite songs and at that point everyone present just joined in, we chanted, we sang, we meditated and even danced to her favorite tunes. What a sense of relief and what an immense sense of freedom. Thats when I realized I had truly found a closure to her death, that I had unconsciously denied in my mind or resisted for a year.


Allowing myself to be with her with all emotions I realized how important closure was. However with so much of media exposure and technology intervention we have in our lives, we may be having more friends, more opportunities more options but are we ready to make the best choice? Like Sri Sri says changing a boat will not help if you don't know how to row...So sharing my views on finding closure and moving on



  • By giving time to the person/ event mentally we respect it 
  • Once we respect it, we find ourselves getting unhooked from the tentacles of negative emotions that thrive on resistance
  • Knowing that we get wiser with time and the unpleasant people and situations from past no longer affect us, its going to be the same with this person/ situation
  • Being open about it to someone you trust
  • Doing something constructive with the challenge nature has provided
  • Laugh about it and share about it like its someone else's - like you are an observer
  • Meditate and help heal and release yourself of the impressions
  • And if nothing else works a prayer sure does.


Take time, heal yourself, meditate and Move On…

Jai Gurudev!
Shilpa

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